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I got this picture from a blog that I occasionally read. The blogger saw the picture on another website and got SUPER MAD about it. Now, needless to say, she is a BIG GIRL and she got very defensive about it calling the poster an asshole and claiming that just because someone may be big doesn't mean that they eat bad.
REALLY?
I am going to say IN MOST CASES (there are some exceptions) your body size and weight are a direct result of the food you eat, what you eat and how much you eat. If you eat healthy your body will be healthy, if you eat CRAP well...you get the point.
I think, unless you are eating the crappy fatty junk food portrayed in the picture there is no reason to be defensive. Nobody is stupid. It is very clear that eating FAT CRAP FOOD makes you fat. You can deny your bad eating habits all day long but when you weigh 250 pounds or are 100 pounds over weight, you are definitely doing something wrong.
I am not the skinny size 4 girl and I am not the big PLUS size girl either. I am average size in between. I eat fairly well being a vegetarian but I hit the junk food sometimes myself. I could stand to lose a few pounds and it is a direct result of bad food choices on my part. But by no means does that picture PISS ME OFF.
I think it pissed her off because she does eat crappy fatty shitty foods and JUNK and she knows it and someone posted this graphic and it HIT HOME with her. The truth usually hurts and when you hit too close to home with some folks, they get pissed.
You know what, I'm a fat-ass & it doesn't piss me off either. I know it's not directed at me. I haven't eaten out in over a year- no fast food in over 3, I drink a diet soda maybe once a month, and no regular soda in about 6 years. I nibble on fruits and veggies all day, and eat a small portion of family dinner. Occasionally I'll bake b/c I LOVE IT- but I only make what my family can consume responsibly. My health is FUCKED and I know that's what my problem is. But, with no health insurance, I figure I'm better off keeping good habits, cry about my fat-ass in private, and keep in mind shit like that isn't about me. =-)
ReplyDeleteit bothers me, not because there isn't some truth to it, but because its not an absolute, a couple of friends easily fit the first photo in body size, but I have watched them drink 6packs of regular soda every single day and snack on snack size snickers bars while watching tv. Neither one of them works out AT ALL, and I the only vegetables I see them eat are either covered in melted cheese or dipped in full fat veggie dip. If I drank regular soda or snacked on snickers bars, i would weigh 300lbs no question about it. I get that my metabolism is jacked up, I know its 100% my responsibility to give my body the tools it needs to look and feel its best, but there are skinny people who get a "pass" they get to bask in the glory that unless someone watches what they eat they will assume as the picture depicts, that they take care of their bodies, when in reality they do nothing to deserve it.
ReplyDeleteThat is my friend, Angie, that you called a "BIG GIRL" and whose blog post you referred to. You have every right to disagree with her. You have every right to write about how you feel about the image and other people's response to it. But I think that by calling her a "BIG GIRL" and not linking to her and just calling her names - because that is what you have done- is just picking on someone without letting them speak for themselves. I also find the phrase "BIG GIRL" to be offensive and rude, and I don't see you saying it to her face (i.e. linking her or responding to her blog post with that phrase) so I'm pretty sure you know it is rude too.
ReplyDeleteI'm backing up Daisy on this one. Angie is a personal friend of mine. The fact that you call her out as a "BIG GIRL" (all caps) without naming or linking her is totally unfair, uncalled for, and honestly, flat-out mean.
ReplyDeleteSo, you claim that this post offended Angie because it hit too close to home, that all she eats is junk? Um, how on earth do you know what she does or doesn't eat? Have you been to her house and looked through her fridge? Do you know anything about her other than what you "occasionally" read on her blog?
I honestly didn't want to click on this post, because I didn't want to give you the blog traffic, as I know that's the only thing you care about. But I will back up my friends when they're attacked unfairly. The fact is, an overweight person can always lose weight, but the meanness in YOUR heart, Peggy Sue? That's a lot tougher to lose.
Angie didn't link to the person she took the photo from and had posted it either. So where was that person's chance to see the response and defend themselves? It's not a one way street.
ReplyDeleteI have been a BIG girl and weighed 225. I have had PCOS my whole life and still lost 100 pounds while suffering from PCOS and infertility. It's harder to lose weight but once you do the PCOS clears up. Ppl will always use health issues to justify weighing over 200 pounds when in actuality, let's do a food journal for 6 weeks and compare notes at the end of that time. You will have either lied about what you ate or changed your eating habits and lost some weight doing it. I doubt you will find one slim person offended by this pic.
Like I said, the truth hurts some folks. I don't care who reads this post. I didn't keep it secret. I posted links to it on twitter and will a few more times before I move on.
I knew a lot of BIG girls would get upset by it just like you knew all the big girls would rally around you when you got SO PISSED off at someone posting this pic on Pinterest. Where's the link to the person you took it from? Where is their chance to respond to your calling them an asshole for posting it?
If you don't know by now I DGAF who I piss off. As long as this is my blog I will post anything I want to. And if there is a reason to link to another blog or another person I will. I usually do, but since the original poster was left out of this pic train I didn't figure I had to bother. I was stealing anything.
You know what else? No one here knew that she was referring to this Angie...until you two came and pointed it out. YOU made it personal by coming here and letting everyone know exactly where she saw this posted... =-/
ReplyDeleteIn my defense, and my only "defense" here on this blog, is that I did in fact search for the originator of the graphic. I even notated in my post that the original creator of the image is "unknown." I went so far back in linking for the posted, re-posted, pinned, and re-pinned image that it was pointless to keep going to find the original creator.
ReplyDeleteIf your only defense to not link to me is that I didn't link to the original creator of the image, your point is moot.
Yes, this is your blog, you get to do what you want. When you spew vitriol, it comes back ten-fold.
I challenge you to NOT insult people when trying to make a point.
Jenni - The point of those commenting and me commenting is not to point out I was "hidden," but to point out that she doesn't have the guts to link to who she's insulting. I can take and welcome creative criticism, but to talk about me as just a "BIG girl" and not refer directly to me is cowardly.
ReplyDeleteMaybe she just wanted to have a conversation about the picture...without dragging your name up. Why is everything in the blogosphere have to be so digging and controversial? =-/
ReplyDeleteMy main point was that only BIG folks are going to be offended by this. I didn't say specifically who because to me that would have been being an asshole. But since her cheerleaders want to come and say names...there you go...That is who posted it. That is who got PISSED OFF and offended by the pic. I wasn't quoting your original material so it is not even RUDE Of me not to link to you. Considering I was referring to a BIG GIRL it would have been ruder to show ppl who I was talking about, IMO.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't mind labeling someone an asshole just because they posted a pic that offended you.
I am an averaged sized person. I fit in the middle of that picture. I would hesitate to say it offends me, but I think it is a gross misrepresentation of reality. I weigh 137 pounds, my BMI is normal, but I eat like absolute crap. I'm not proud of it and I'm working to be better, but I eat sugar and carbs like it's going out of style. To me, the picture is just ridiculous. The world is not black and white. Thin people don't exclusively eat veggies and overweight people don't exclusively eat crap. And that's why people are offended by it.
ReplyDeleteThere are all kinds of reasons that people gain weight and yes, many times it's from diet, but it can also be related to physical and emotional disorders and many other things.
Regardless of how you feel about people who are overweight, I do think it's kind of lousy to call someone a BIG GIRL. You say you used to be overweight, do you think you would've appreciated being called that by someone else for no apparent reason? You think it's wrong that Angie called the person who posted/made the picture an asshole (and I love Angie, but arguable that was probably not the nicest thing she's ever said), so are you trying to prove what she did was wrong by doing it too? Because that's not proving a point, it's just being a hypocrite.
It's absolutely inexcusable that as adults we feel that it's okay to call each other names, Angie may not have been right in calling someone an asshole, but you are equally wrong in calling her names for no real reason except to tear her down.
What if the person who made this made it to encourage THEMSELVES to eat how they know would help THEIR body? Just putting that out there...
ReplyDeleteNo calling someone a big girl is not calling them names... Calling someone a fatass would be calling them names. I was a BIG girl for over 10 yrs and I knew I was. I owned it and didn't get pissy with other ppl about my own bad body image.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't piss me off. And I am not a thin person. I am not a big girl, either. I am a LARGE WOMAN.
ReplyDeleteI just figure you (generic you, not you personally) can think whatever the fuck you want about me, I will do likewise and go on with my life.
I need to lose a lot of weight, it's starting to affect my health.
But a collage picture has no ability to anger me because what you (again, generic you) think isn't my problem, it's yours.
That being said, my take on it is that you did not link the blogger, and I would have had no idea who it was had other people not come here and spoken in her defense.
I find that preferable to 'hey, look at the link for this doofus' because THAT? That would be purposely hurtful.
::shrug::
It must be fun to be skinny.
ReplyDeleteWait. I used to be really skinny before I popped out 80,000 kids in the past few years. And I ate worse then than I do now. And now? My thyroid and metabolism are all jacked up. I have to control that with medication.
Anyway, calling people "BIG GIRLS" in all caps is super offensive. Especially since you are not one. It's like rich people talking about poor people and having NO idea how they got that way.
Also - if you want to talk about someone online - I would say just link to that post that you do not agree with. When you don't, you look like a bully.
It doesn't really piss me off, because I kind of like the graphic. I think it might have been more accurate if it was trying to portray health rather than weight though.
ReplyDeleteOne of your commenters mentioned knowing some small people who eat junk...I know some people like that as well, I think they're pretty much unfair to society.
It might not be entirely accurate, this picture, but there's definitely some truth to be found in it.
I disagree Meredith. Referring to some anonymous person as a BIG GIRL is not bullying in any way. It became a circus because some ppl came here and OUTED who that big girl was. I am not the one who exposed who I was talking about. To me, exposing who I was referring to would have been rude and directing traffic at someone for the wrong reasons and possible even would have had ppl who wouldn't normally go to her blog go over there and leave rude comments. To me, that would have been the asshole move.
ReplyDeleteI made my choice for what was best for me.
I agree with Meredith completely. You do look like a bully.
ReplyDeleteAnd it's going to lose you a lot of readers. No one likes a bully, because most of us have been bullied. I wonder, Peggy, if you have ever been bullied? If you have, then I wonder why you would ever chose to do it to someone else. It doesn't matter if you outed or not. The effect is the same. A lot of large woman reading your "BIG GIRL" statement will think of themselves first, so it's bullying more than just her.
Next time just try saying that you think large women are lazy, irresponsible, and don't take care of themselves.
Oh wait, you did.
Just because that is your opinion doesn't make it true. Bullying would be if I showed up at her blog and started talking shit to her, putting her down, heckling her.
ReplyDeleteMaking reference to another person or that person's size on MY OWN BLOG is not bullying, no matter how you twist it.
And as for losing readers...I have 11 more readers today than I had on Wednesday. SO I am not really concerned about losing readers. Thanks for your concern though. =)
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